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Need, Want or Expect

Hello dear readers,

Before you continue reading this blog-post, I would like to tell you that this one might seem a bit blunt to you, but, it is what I think is the truth.

We live in a supposedly supernatural world. We all have certain needs, wants and we never miss a chance to expect. But, in reality, have we ever tried to understand the difference between what we 'want' and what we 'need', or, what we 'want' and what we 'expect', or what we 'need' and what we 'expect'? Have we been able to tell ourselves with all our self-confidence that we are pretty clear that it is either a want, need or an expectation?

I just wish to throw some more light on these words, by decoding these words to the extent I am able to, which have been bothering me since quite a lot many days.

When we are around people we 'expect' them to notice us, to think about us. But, what we really 'want' most of the times is that they just should be jealous about us, about what we are. And when our want is such, our 'need' doesn't stay far behind in defining that we really want to stand out from the crowd and be able to say 'I am the best'.

When we are with our near-and-dear-ones, we just be ourselves, we don't have to brag about ourselves or try to be what we aren't. But, then our expectations differ. We then 'expect' them to do various things. To help us in our tasks, to do things that would strengthen our relationship with them and loads of other stuff. But, do we 'want' them to do these things or 'expect' them to? And the 'need' remains that they give us all that we want, never even giving it a thought if it's something they wish to do.

When we are with our friends, we don't mind pulling their legs for every small bit of sun that we get when we do it. On the contrary, we 'expect' them to not do the same with us. We don't mind finally turning into hypocrites in our own eyes. We 'want' them to be themselves when they are with us, but, we might ourselves wear a mask difficult to unearth. We 'need' them to listen to everything that we have to say, leaving aside all that they 'need' to do. We 'need' them to be there with us during our thins, but, might just fail to realize that we also should be there when they face theirs...

And finally coming to our own selves. Do we really know what we 'want', 'need' and 'expect'? Are we really able to decode the mystery of these three words and apply it into our own lives? Or are we among those who never really have understood the meaning of these words and just use them like words which are supposedly just the synonyms of each other? Do we try to justify our words by saying that our wants are our needs and not just mere expectations?

These are the questions which can be best answered by us when they are put up for ourselves. If we really wish to lead a happy life, I guess (and I believe) the realization to the answers to these questions serve as a pre-requisite.

Leaving you with something that will help you realize your own self... Sayonara...

Comments

  1. Everytime you write something, I just make it difficult for myself to rate your blog. I always wonder if your previous topic was best. But you prove me wrong everytime.

    Coming back to this post, you really open up the eyes of your readers. I read the caution note at the start of the post. But honestly, I never took it seriously... Until I reached the end of the post. This post is an eye-opener. Fantastically written. Keep up the good work and wish you all the success.

    Regards,
    Bhavin
    (www.blogsbybugs.blogspot.com)

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  2. jus 1 word....awesum....

    January 14 at 8:53pm

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  3. der no words to say hw brilliant it was....!!!! dis is a total eye-opener.....

    September 23, 2009 at 12:09pm

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